As you’re out there looking for the One, do you find yourself focused on how all these women you’re meeting don’t quite measure up? Consciously or subconsciously, you’re comparing each one to the list of qualities your dream women will have.
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One of those ladies across the room probably has a little more meat on her bones than your ideal woman, or she’s got a too-skinny derriere. One has a voice that’s a little too squeaky...or maybe a bit loud. Is she dressed in flip flops instead of heels? Or perhaps she’s got straight hair and you want wavy?
Are you for real? Because your dream women might not be.
Reviewing Your Resume
While you’re being so particular, keep in mind that the woman of your dreams is out there looking for the same thing—the One. She’s got her own list of criteria that her ideal man will have.
What if she wants someone tall, and you’re height challenged? What if her list includes a master’s degree and you've only got a B.S.? What if she wants a guy with a full head of hair and six-pack abs and you’re lacking a bit around the top edges and spilling over in the middle? You would hope that she’d overlook a few of those ideal traits when she gets to know you and sees how special you are, wouldn’t you?
The Vacant Position
Well, what about you? If you stay focused on the specifics, you might discount a women who’s missing some of your checklist criteria but is actually a spectacular package when you get to know her.
Of course it’s good to tune into what thrills you in a partner and what turns you off. If you’re a high-end-label kind of guy, then a girl who shops at consignment stores might not be a great fit. If you like to be active outdoors and she’s clearly a material girl, then your lifestyles are likely to clash.
However, chemistry and personality can sometimes surprise you. If you set too many hard and fast rules about what kind of woman you’re going to date, you might end up crossed off that dream girl’s list because of your cocky attitude.
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Surely you’d be willing to learn a thing or two...especially if you find that none of the women you’re meeting can satisfy your strict standards. You might be looking in the wrong places. Or maybe you’re not living up to your own expectations. It could be that you’re hanging out with the wrong crowd. You also might be setting unrealistic standards that no woman is going to be able to achieve.
Think about your vision of the ideal woman...what would she be looking for in a man? Could you make the cut? If not, maybe you should work on improving your own image and being a bit more flexible when you set out to meet your dream girl. Don’t you really want a woman with vision who can see past your faults?
So take a closer look at those beauties across the room and see what kind of deeper insights you can gain from some friendly conversation. You might find a woman who’s such a pleasant surprise that you tear up that list and learn to go with the flow.
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